Humans are fascinating aren't they? Everyone is different, behaves differently, thinks differently... and before looking at others we can spend a lifetime just understanding our own minds and thought processes. I try to spend a lot of time reflecting (often I then write those thoughts down here) and one area I find very interesting is how I learn. I blame my mother for this - she's a teacher and embedded in me an interest in the different ways people learn and understand.
Like many others, one of the ways I learn is experimentation around the boundaries. If I know how a system or a situation is supposed to work, I will sometimes see what happens one step beyond the stated limit. This is particularly useful with computers where one can watch log outputs and understand the complex system while modifying variables. However, it's also useful exploring options and testing perceived limits in the office. One of my first decisions as a senior leader was around a change in recruitment policy which nobody could work out how to sign off. I just ... did. Mostly to see if anyone would tell me I'd overstepped.
That was some five years ago, and as far as I know it was never reverted. Importantly, I discovered that the actual limit to my authority in this role was way beyond where people mentally placed it, and it moved the moment I challenged. So, armed with this knowledge, I then had a whole new space to explore what could be done.
Before moving on, I fully acknowledge that this is hardly sophisticated. While I like to think I've learned some more finesse over the years, "pushing boundaries" is what what two year olds do to try to understand the world. They push the parents to see how far they can go before getting put back in their place. But they do say we lose our inquisitiveness and bravery as we grow older...
Anyway, the reason for this post (other than outing myself as a 6' child) is reflecting this into the workspace. At work, I spend a lot of time developing people and a vital part of that is thinking about how they can push their own limits and move further forward. I've seen very smart people stunt their own growth through their fear of failure - unwillingness to push themselves forward and potentially be wrong.
This is problematic in general, but lethal if an individual's aspirations are to reach the highest levels of an organisation. At that point, there is no manual and you're thinking on your feet the majority of the time. You have to be able to see where you are being limited - by yourself, by the org processes, whatever - and seek ways to push through and improve the situation. For those of us in leadership, that means giving people the space to explore into an area where they might fail and then allow them to find their own way through, even if this isn't quite as clean or direct as we'd necessarily like. Clearly we should help where needed (after all, not all failures are equal) but it's no use constantly being training wheels as this will never build confidence. Worse, it might lead individuals to see the problem as "what makes Tom happy" rather than "what needs to be done to make this situation better" at which point I'm doing all the thinking and that is neither helpful nor sustainable.
So let's encourage our people to make themselves vulnerable, give them a space where that is safe and let them do things that are imperfect so they can develop the skills to be as perfect as us (ha). Let's encourage some failure?
