Showing posts with label people. Show all posts
Showing posts with label people. Show all posts

Sunday, 26 January 2025

Looking back and remembering

I intended to start this year with a post about what might be coming in 2025, filled with enthusiasm and excitement. Instead, with the passing of a friend, I want to write a few words about remembering the important people in our working lives and what makes them important.

Over my career I've met a lot of people - some have been great at what they do. The people I remember are the ones who are more than competent, they are decent, authentic and overall nice individuals. "Nice" can sometimes be a little derogatory - a substitute for anything more positive to say. But, for me, the people who properly exemplify "nice" show off the traits we claim we value the highest. They encourage and provide positivity. They create non-judgemental space, while offering constructive feedback. They support without coddling. They make time for people and help build up those around them, usually managing to do so without making themselves the centre of attention. They usually do this somewhat unconsciously - it is their natural way to help, build and encourage. Nice people have a positive impact on their world.

Truly nice people are rare, but they are out there and should be valued. Even more so, we should value the people who remember those who have passed out their immediate sphere (say, changed job or moved away) and keep those connections going. A friend of mine refers to these folk as "glue people" - people who bring others together, often with as simple a thought process as "you're a decent person who has a problem, I remember person X who could probably solve it - you should talk". In this world of networking and personal brand, these glue people are surprisingly rare and those who do it authentically and honestly (ie not attempting to become some kind of power broker) are even rarer. They help hold extended groups together and create new connections through truthful endorsement and recommendations and lots of people owe personal and professional change and development to them - often without even realising it. We are collectively poorer when we lose them.

I don't like naming individuals on this blog, especially when I know they can't ever respond or correct or ask me to take it down, so I'm not going to do this today but I know we have lost someone decent, authentic and nice and I know they have made a huge difference to my life, and the lives of others. We may not fully recognise it. Frankly, this person probably didn't realise it either and that is both wonderful and intensely sad.

Life is short and frail. I'm starting this year thinking about who I want to be, and what I'd like people to remember me for.

Friday, 8 March 2024

Celebrating the important people - part 1

Everyone can look back at their life and identify people who have had a huge influence on them, for better or worse. In my professional life I have been fortunate to meet a lot of great people, but there are four people who (in different but very positive ways) have had a profound effect on my career and development and are the ones to whom I give credit for my current position. I've been thinking about different ways to tell this story - partly because I'm deeply thankful to and for these individuals, and partly because I think it's important for anyone who works with others to realise the effect they can have on those around them.

Two of my four people are women, and so I'm going to celebrate these two and post today on International Women's Day (March 8th 2024 for future readers). I'm not going to name names because at least one of them will just be embarrassed by public praise and thanks, however if they do read this and give me permission I'll update / follow up later. If you read this and know who I'm talking about, please don't out anyone in the comments. For the moment I'm going to call them Amy and Bree.

Amy

I started my time in tech on an IT support desk, servicing whichever members of the university community walked up and asked questions. Amy offered me this role after she caught me behind the counter fixing a computer, helping out a friend who already had a job there. The interview lasted as long as "is that going to work?" "yes..." "want some shifts?". This was my first proper professional opportunity (previous jobs being typical student roles and work experience) and fundamentally set the course of my career in the Tech space - before this, my Dad and I were discussing some kind of management accountancy role. Amy opened a door here, but this was just the start.

Working on the helpdesk could have been a routine role doing shifts and bringing in enough to live on. Instead, Amy encouraged me to take on support for the university's student machines in our library and manage repair and maintenance myself. This was really quite significant for someone in their first role at the age of 21. In addition to the technical problem solving, Amy gave me experience with broader organisational problem solving and working with suppliers (some of whom were really awkward). When I spotted problems with our processes, Amy gave me the space to make improvements. Looking back, Amy gave me a huge amount of trust and freedom - especially considering my age and lack of experience. But this let me grow in professional confidence and laid the first foundations for me to think about work beyond Just The Day Job - a skill which has proved utterly invaluable throughout my career. At the time, I had no idea this wasn't the norm but looking back, Amy broke the "tech for tech's sake" thought trap in me before I even fell into it. Without ever using the phrases, she made me focus on the user needs and the broader systems at play.

All this was incredibly valuable, but what happened next was a step beyond. After just over a year in this role, I had to approach Amy and say I needed to move on. I was enjoying my time working on the helpdesk but the lease on my house was running out, flatmates were moving away and this wasn't a role I could keep doing for much longer. I was preparing to move home to my parents and strike out from there.

Amy had other ideas. Next thing I knew, I was in a meeting with a couple of very senior people in Computing Services and she was telling them "this is someone you need to keep". She didn't so much open a door here as kick it open and demand attention and this led directly to my first developer job. While the helpdesk experience was incredible learning, it was this action that locked me into a career in Tech and it was 100% down to her decision and willingness to stick her neck out for me. This one action literally led to my current situation, sitting here as a senior tech leader with a wealth of highly technical experience behind me.

Looking back, Amy was incredible to me even if I was too young and foolish to realise it at the time. She embedded particular ways of thinking that are still of value daily today and literally set my future field for me. She believed in me, helped me build my confidence and gave me space to learn and experiment. I hope I pass this on to those around me.

Bree

Many years later, I had been working through a very difficult time at work. The year had resulted in serious burnout and a complete destruction of my professional confidence. I reached a point I could not continue, and left my role with no role to go to. I needed time to rest and recover, then figure out what I wanted to do next because I did not feel confident to do the kind of role I'd been occupying. 

I got an email which led to a conversation which all boiled down to "Hi, it's Bree. I hear you're leaving Blah? Any plans? We might be hiring! Would you be interested in helping me work through a major org change?"

I have no words to communicate how important it was to have this kind of conversation at this at this stage in my life. In short order, I was back in the maelstrom of change and leadership but with some essential differences. This time, I felt respected by the organisation and it felt like people actually wanted me to be there. This is entirely down to Bree and her decision to reach out and I cannot express how thankful I am to her.

Honestly, I came into this space damaged and it took me a long time to start to relax into the role. Bree gave me support and space to heal while I ramped up. She restored my professional confidence and gave me a forward trajectory at a time when I was seriously considering turning my back on this profession. Bree showed me a possible future for my career and encouraged (and shoved) me towards it.

Not that she gave me an easy ride! Bree pushed and challenged, expanding my boundaries and horizons. She demanded excellence, but a new thing for me was also having to work to define what excellence meant before then having to (attempt to) achieve it. Bree kept this challenge in a very positive setting, which made the difficulties an interesting problem rather than a trial by fire. It is very hard to constantly push for better without damaging morale, but Bree's leadership told a clear and inclusive story: "we can do better - let's get there together". Many responded well to this, and we saw a strong culture developing from this simple but inspirational message.

Bree taught me so much about operating at senior leadership levels - how to set a culture, how to polish communication, how to put myself into the wider conversation, how to articulate value, not to mention how to run a broad department while keeping a hand on the details. She helped me learn and refine key skills, but more importantly she helped me develop the ways of thinking which drive them. These are strong foundations from which to develop and evolve and this is an incredibly valuable gift.

These days I have a very minor public profile. This blog post will appear via LinkedIn - I've mentioned before how posting there was a big step for me and taking that step was again thanks to Bree encouraging me to develop my platform in this way. Before, I had some thoughts for how the industry could improve and thanks to her, these are more than random muses and I am thinking in terms of what I can actually do to change and influence things.

Bree has had a huge influence on my career by helping me think differently and challenging me to stretch myself and grow. She also gave me the support to heal through encouragement and belief when I needed it the most, not to mention opening doors into different worlds. Most importantly, Bree made me believe in myself as a senior leader at a time when I absolutely did not. It's hard to imagine a greater gift.

To loop back to the top, I wanted to post this on International Women's Day to recognise and celebrate the impact of these two women on my life. They have profoundly affected my career and if you've got this far I also want to challenge you to try to be on someone's list one day. We can all do this - take the time to invest in people, develop them and have a little faith. It sounds easy boiled down, but it takes thought and effort. These two did it, and I spend most days trying to live up to this standard.