When to mentor

I've been thinking again about mentoring. When is the right point to consider the challenge of mentoring someone? When does one know enough? When should one offer oneself as a mentor, without it coming across as seriously arrogant?

The answer is, of course, never. A mentor is calm, wise, and has seen it all before. They can easily understand everything that could possibly come up, have a very clear plan in place immediately and be able to take a mentee forward through any situation. Does this sound like me / you? Really? Plus, let's face it, if I / you know it then it's pretty obvious and can't possibly be worth offering to someone else.

Or at least that's what The Voices say to me every time I think about this. This is, of course, nonsense.

So what is the real answer? When is the right time to help those with less experience? Now. It doesn't matter what experience you have - it is more than some people. Sure, over time that number will increase and more folk will benefit from hearing from you, but you already know something that is unique and worth telling others. Mid-level developer? Plenty of people coming through the junior levels who need to learn from you. "Only" a junior? Well, there are plenty of people who are just starting out and have no experience at all.

This is before we get to the value of mentoring to you. Similarly to writing a blog, there is a discipline in structuring ideas and then clearly talking through ideas and concepts in a way someone else can understand them and like any form of teaching, one needs an extra level of understanding to be able to talk about a concept in this way. It is essential for a leader to be able to articulate their thinking clearly in order to bring others along with them. It is also very important to be able to think clearly on the fly - such as when people can drop awkward topics of discussion on you at any time.

As an aside, I really don't like the term "mentor" - or rather I don't like thinking of someone as "my mentee" because of the implied power dynamic there. I would say I don't have any mentees, but there are plenty of people who would disagree with that.

Ok, so how does one offer mentoring without sounding deeply arrogant? The easiest route, I think, is by offering to a group who are already in a place to be receptive, and maybe linked to individual topics you know you can claim some expertise. I've recently seen someone I respect offering consultation around salary negotiations. This is a form of targeted mentoring, and in a field she is visibly knowledgeable. 

As I said above, I already do some mentoring however my new year resolutions included giving more back to this industry. So I'm going to do two things. 

Firstly, if anyone is reading this and wants a chat about the tech industry - in particular technical leadership, moving from a technical job to a leadership role, the role of technical knowledge in the strategic / leadership space or similar - then please do reach out on LinkedIn or Twitter. I am also open to speaking to groups (which is whole different post).

Secondly, I'm going to make this same offer in an engineering leadership Slack which is filled with people I don't know. That idea scares me ... we'll see what happens.

An important caveat here. I know there are qualified coaches, mentors and so on. I am not that. I am simply someone who has been around a bit.

Anyway, I'm going to do something here and I challenge you, dear reader, to do so too. The important thing is that there is always something one can offer to others who are looking to learn. And there is always something one can learn from someone else. We all can find value by listening to and learning from each other.

Looking to the future

One of the symptoms of seniority that I still struggle to process is this idea that people want to hear what I have to say and understand how they can (professionally at least) be me. It's a weird feeling, both humbling and frightening, and has only grown in the last few months. I'm being asked to speak at conferences, and in a few weeks I'm on a panel discussing the future of the Tech industry. Why? Surely there is someone better for this?

Honestly, this is a question I've been asking myself since my time in the Civil Service, where I found myself in a meeting discussing how to spend five million pounds of public money. I should write a post about getting over myself and getting on with it. This, however, is not that post.

I moved away from development into management so I could make a difference to the industry. How do people get into Tech? How do people move to more senior technical roles? Showing the importance of senior leadership with technical backgrounds, and helping people get the right experience to be credible candidates. These are core to my motivation and it seems I have the beginning of a platform. This is a responsibility I want to take seriously. What can I offer to the wider industry?

I've got a few ideas and since there seems to be a few people reading this blog from LinkedIn, I suppose I can offer them up. First and foremost, I'm thinking of creating a set of interviews with people in my position telling their story, talking about how they got to where they are today. I don't kid myself that I'm some kind of Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, but then neither are the overwhelming majority of people. I am, however, fairly successful in the industry. I'm in a position that someone getting into Tech can reasonably aspire to attain. Not inspirational perhaps, but practical. There are lots of people like me, and the stories don't get told often enough so I like the idea of creating some kind of resource showing the different paths people can take. At the moment I'm thinking a podcast, but format to be decided. If you're reading this and think it's an interesting or useful idea, please do reach out.

In addition, I sit on the London Data Board, and I'm happy to offer some time to support other initiatives if they come up. Again, do reach out - especially if they are something to do with nature or animals. On top of this, I already do some mentoring, and I've got a whole post about that coming up soon.

I opened saying that people asking about my career and how to "be me" is weird. Actually, on reflection, it's a weirder feeling that I'm in a position to be feeling a sense of responsibility to the industry and asking any of the above questions. It's a great privilege to be working somewhere where I can spend some time looking outwards and hopefully make a difference. That's my intention anyway - so I've written it down in public so I can hold myself to account.